Standards

Atlanta,

Good question and one that I could talk about for hours! I'm the middle of three girls so this area is talked about quite frequently at our home. I do understand that there is no such thing as a "perfect young man" but through the years God has brought me to a place where there are certain "standards" I desire in my future mate (if marriage is God will). Here are just a few that are on my heart...everyone is different

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1) Must be a sold out Christian (preferably Independant Baptist)....that would answer a lot as far as doctrine.
2). Comes from a godly home.
3). Was a homeschool grad (or is in favor 100% for homeschooling).
4). Believes in Gods roles for men and women (such as the man being the provider and the woman being the keeper-at-home). This means a lot to me!
5). Can manage his finances well.
6). Is in favor of having children (and as many as God would bless us with).
7). Has kept himself pure for me as I'm trying to do for him.

Then comes the "little stuff" like ....... dark hair and handsome :rollin

Blessings,
~~ Aja Nicole~~

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Atlanta689 ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 152 (11/30/03 3:18 pm) Reply	Standards Hello ladies! I have a question for y'all to think about. What is your view of standards for the type of person you'd marry (or did marry )? That is, what qualities would you deem necessary to marry someone? I am especially interested in Scriptural proof for any particular marriage standards you feel are essential. Atlanta
BRRanch ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 214 (12/2/03 3:13 pm) Reply	Re: Standards Atlanta, Good question and one that I could talk about for hours! I'm the middle of three girls so this area is talked about quite frequently at our home. I do understand that there is no such thing as a "perfect young man" but through the years God has brought me to a place where there are certain "standards" I desire in my future mate (if marriage is God will). Here are just a few that are on my heart...everyone is different . ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1) Must be a sold out Christian (preferably Independant Baptist)....that would answer a lot as far as doctrine. 2). Comes from a godly home. 3). Was a homeschool grad (or is in favor 100% for homeschooling). 4). Believes in Gods roles for men and women (such as the man being the provider and the woman being the keeper-at-home). This means a lot to me! 5). Can manage his finances well. 6). Is in favor of having children (and as many as God would bless us with). 7). Has kept himself pure for me as I'm trying to do for him. Then comes the "little stuff" like ....... dark hair and handsome Blessings, ~~ Aja Nicole~~
singergirl01 ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 123 (12/3/03 4:57 pm) Reply	Re: Standards Okay, standards These are for me personally. As Aja, said everyone will be different: 1. Must be a growing Christian, dedicated to the Lord,who loves and puts God first in His life, and is sensitive or learning to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit's leading. 2. Must agree with me on, or have similar beliefs in (really no particular order, theology would be first of course): --music --movies --lifestyle --clothing --education for our children (parents supervising it) --women's biblical role (wife at home) --men's biblical role (husband providing) --biblical reverence toward God ( seeing God as He truly is, teaching our children to see Him that way) --worship style --letting God plan our family --method of disciplining children --family devotions --husband being the leader of the home --theology, and doctrinal beliefs --college --I didn't put everything, these are the basics, the other stuff would go here 3. He must be considerate and compassionate towards others 4. He must stand strong in His God-given convictions, yet not be judgemental of others 5. He must be a man of daily prayer 6. He must be physically and emotionally pure, as I am striving to be for him I've got more, but this all I have time to write right
Atlanta689 ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 154 (12/12/03 9:50 pm) Reply	Re: Standards Dear girls, Hello! I was glad to hear your views on this. But I'd like to pick your brain on something. You may have noticed that I said I was particularly interested in Scriptural proof. Both of you have outlined some wonderful standards, all good, Biblical things in themselves, but are they relevant as marriage STANDARDS? What does the Scripture say about marriage and the kind of person that we should or should not marry? Is it in the realm of possibility that God might want you to marry someone who did not meet up to all the ideals listed? I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this. Atlanta
sis2 12 ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 89 (12/14/03 5:27 pm) Reply	Re: Standards Dear Atlanta, I am not exactly sure what you are looking for. Are you looking for "standards/texts" that deal specifically with "What a marriage partner should be like"? For example there's "Being a believer", "Do not be unequally yoked to-gether with unbelievers. (2 Cor. 6:14) That deals specifically with marriage. Or are you looking for "standards/texts" that deal more with character? Such as "Having the heart of a servant", " But whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant." (Matt. 20:26) Or are you looking for both? I am just not sure what you mean by "standards", because both of the above "standards/texts" are to me absolutely necessary for a marriage partner. I would never marry an unbeliever, or someone from a different religion then I am. But I would also NEVER marry a snob! lol ;-) Do you think you could clarify? Thank you! ~~Shannon~~
Atlanta689 ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 155 (12/20/03 6:51 pm) Reply	Re: Standards Hi Shannon! I'm sorry I wasn't clearer. Yes, I was looking for Scriptures that dealt specifically with what type of marriage partner we should seek. There seems to be very few verses dealing specifically with that, aside from the one you quoted. But thank you; you pretty much answered my question on what you believe. Anyone else have any comments? Atlanta
singergirl01 ~Reminisce Member~ Posts: 124 (1/3/04 6:15 pm) Reply	Re: Standards *Quote:* Is it in the realm of possibility that God might want you to marry someone who did not meet up to all the ideals listed? It's very possible, but having those things written down is for me a good guiding outline to know what man is worth it and what man isn't. God knows better than I do what man is best for me, and I trust Him to provide me with the right one. There are some things that I wouldn't budge on, and i don't believe that God would have me marry someone who didn't agree in those certain areas, becuz God is the one who gave me those convictions I don't mean I'd gage him on every thing I listed above in my previous post, just certain things. I think Shannon has a good point, there are some things that while they may not be direct commands from Scripture, there are biblical principles we can base them on. But as to actual commands: He must be a Christian (2 Cor. 6:14) He must understand what it means to love a wife (Eph 5:25) That's all i have time to post right now My Sites

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